Special circumstance, whereby area and location of migration of deen and teachings because of alim base and location, whereby by choice, you have decided to gender change, as two males, and or two females', number one, you should have sort advises before this change, number two, I would have advised that the spilt between us as pairing couples', should be 50% 50% and depends on what appearance you look more like, so if you appear slightly more male, then this should be your path. As for this circumstance that you sort upon yourself, you should remain as a married couple without sexual interactions', until circumstance allows', for the change over of the other partner once again, as for this, you decided to take this upon yourself without seeking advise first, well its too late for you to complain now, isn't it. As for extreme circumstance of poverties and or conditions of oppressions by parents and or countries', the position of natural gender change as an unmarried person, changes again, and is more allowable.